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Building relationships


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4. Building relationships 5. Making friends 6. Cooking
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4. Relationships

Below are some of the different kinds of relationships, and some advice on how to make and keep good relationships:

Family

Family relations are incredibly important because for many of us they will be the first relationships we form and will last the longest. Please take a look at some of the advice pages for families and children with disabilities:

SIBS

SIBS is a charity for the brothers and sisters of people with disabilities, both young and old. Take a look at the website link below for some advice around how to deal with challenging behaviour and how to talk about coping with some of the stresses that come with the situation:

SCOPE

SCOPE offer a huge amount of information for the parents of disabled children, including helping to improve relationships and understanding different communication methods. 

Young Carers

The Young Carers team can support young people whose parents are disabled or have learning difficulties, meaning that the young person has increased responsibility around the home. To contact Young Carers, please use the contact details below:

Phone 01522 553275

Email youngcarers@lincolnshire.gov.uk

Address Lincolnshire Young Carers, 1st Floor Business Support Office, Municipal Building, West Street, Boston, PE21 8QR.

 

Friends

Friendships are a vitally important part of our lives, and can make a real difference to our achievement and our mental health.

 

Sex and Relationships

Forming romantic relationships is a very natural part of life for many people, and as young people with disabilities grow up, they may start to seek relationships with the same level of interest as anybody else. 

SCOPE have created a very light-hearted look at sex and relationship issues among disabled people today. Follow the link below to the website which explains the issues with great detail and aims to reduce the difficulty in talking about a subject many people may not have talked about before.

Consent

  • When it comes to sex and relationships it is important to know what consensual sex and relationships are.
  • Consent allows both partners to express what they DO want to do and experience
  • Consent is ongoing
  • Saying yes to one act doesn’t mean you are giving consent to other acts
  • Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you automatically have your partners consent.
  • If the person does not say NO this does not mean it’s a YES.
  • It is not consent if you are scared of saying no. if you are manipulated, pressured or threatened to say yes this is not consent.

If anyone involved is not consenting then what is happening is, or could be rape, sexual assault or abuse

Contact 

It can be hard to talk about sex with either your parents or with your children. Contact have produced some resources to help make these conversations easier, emphasising the positive sides whilst still being aware of the possible safety issues. 

 

Healthy Relationships

Every relationship goes through difficult patches. Having disagreements and differences of opinion are quite normal. However, there are some things everyone deserves from a relationship and these things are what make the relationship healthy and more likely to last:

  • Respect - Understanding that people should feel free to be themselves, having their views listened to, feeling valued and to also give respect back.
  • Equality - being part of decision making and being treated fairly.
  • Compassion - being cared for and treated with kindness.
  • Trust - being believed and able to do the things you want to do, trusting each other and feeling good about yourself.
  • Consensual - not being pressured into doing things you don't want to do, feeling comfortable in saying 'No'. If you do not feel that you are listened to, valued or treated with kindness, the relationship might not be right for you.
  • Boundaries – it is important that you express to your partner what you are and are not comfortable with. This can be in regards to sex, money, family and friends, personal space and time. By having boundaries it can allow you to have a healthy relationship this allows both partners to spend time with their family and friends, pursue their own goals and build independence and confidence in themselves.
  • Communication - Communication allows you and your partner to connect and understand each other on a deeper level. By having good communication this allows you to:
  1. Treat each other with respect
  2. Openly talk about your thoughts and feelings
  3. Feel like you are being listened to
  4. Listen to each other and compromise on disagreements
  5. Feel supported in the things that you like
  6. Celebrate each other's successes and accomplishments

Behaviour in relationships that causes emotional or physical harm is known as 'domestic abuse'.

Spotting abusive behaviour in a relationship can be very difficult unless you understand what abusive behaviour is. 


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